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February 9, 2010

Mysteries of Pittsburgh, The

Mysteries of Pittsburgh, The
Mysteries of Pittsburgh, The (2008)

IMDB rating: 5.20

Plot: Based on Michael Chabon’s novel, the film chronicles the defining summer of a recent college graduate who crosses his gangster father and explores love, sexuality, and the enigmas surrounding his life and his city.

Mysteries of Pittsburgh, The

Directors: Thurber Rawson Marshall

Actors: Abtahi Omid,Adams Seth,Baun Jack,Bernard Aaron,Brady Nicholas,Delasko Justin,Ehrin Bill,Faubel Jarid,Foster Jon,Gladen Jeremy,Gregory Keith,Hochendoner Jeff,Jordan Patrick,Kania William,Khan Shaz,Adventure,Comedy,Drama,

What do you think of Pittsburgh for a setting of a book?
What is the first thought that comes to mind when you think of Pittsburgh? What type of story (romance, mystery, suspense ETC.) would fit well in this setting?

Thanks,


Excellent setting. Almost any type of storyline can be worked in with Pittsburgh. Think of including the Monongahela and Allegheny Rivers, Duquense and Monongahela Inclines, Mount Washington, Fort Pitt Tunnel, Fort Pitt Bridge, and Three Sisters Bridges, as places for plenty of action to take place in your book.

ms bell | Nov 27, 2009


I think mystery
reya_the_archer | Nov 27, 2009

American Violet

American Violet
American Violet (2008)

IMDB rating: 7.00

Plot: A single African-American mother struggles to clear her name after being wrongly accused and arrested for dealing drugs in an impoverished town in Texas.

Download American Violet

Directors: Disney Tim

Actors: Patton Will,O’Keefe Michael,Nelson Tim Blake,Martin Scott A.,Barrett Malcolm,Beals Jackson,Beasley Michael,Bernard Tody,Boudreaux Allen,Buchler Andrew,Castro J. Omar,Clay John Will,Dutton Charles S.,Drama,

Issue with the school dresscode/ where can I get a cheap/realistic looking wig?
Our school dress code clearly states "no unnatural hair colors".

We’ve been in session for 3 weeks now, and there are countless african american girls with fire engine red, fuchsia, and pink weaves in their hair, and I’m seeing more and more of it lately. I’ve wanted to dye mine a dark Burgundy/almost black color for a while now, but I colored it a bright red-violet last year and got In School Suspension until I changed it (which took forever considering the fact that I had to save up another $60, and my hair had a gummy texture after dying/bleaching it 3x in less than 3 days)

It’s my first year of high school, and I’m not ready to get walked all over like I was in middle school.

What are some ways to back myself up? I’ve got a few excuses but, I’m just not sure…
Any help is GREATLY appreciated


School dress codes are school dress codes. If you don’t see any loopholes, there’s no avoiding it. You can either wait until you get out of high school (your hair colour will be the least of your problems in high school, dear) or you can use a hair colour that looks like a natural black in regular light but in bright sunlight it looks like a different colour (purple and blue usually)

And burgundy-almost black, is not an unnatural colour, I think you’ll be able to pull it off.

Aurore | Aug 24, 2009


At most malls there are little stands were you can buy hair pieces and wigs :) ryry | Aug 24, 2009


The best thing you could do is talk to your school administrators about it first. They may have a bigger problem with a wig, than the hair dye. And dress code rules tend to differ between middle school and high school. I’m also familiar with the color (I think) you want, and I really can’t see them objecting to it. But if you’re dead set on dying your hair, discuss it with whomever is in charge, or even just a teacher, and see if you can work out something that makes everybody happy. Also, if they express an objection, feel free to politely but firmly bring up the hypocrisy of the statement, given the girls with fuschia hair. Don’t whine, or make demands, act like an adult looking for a positive solution, and you should get far.
Jenn | Aug 24, 2009


You could try going to Sally Beauty stores.

they have a store locator on their website.
http://www.sallybeauty.com/
<3 | Aug 24, 2009

February 8, 2010

Oscar

Oscar
Oscar (1991)

IMDB rating: 5.40

Plot: Angelo “Snaps” Provolone made his dying father a promise on his deathbed: he would leave the world of crime and become an honest businessman. Despite having no experience in making money in a legal fashion, Snaps sets about to keep his promise. He is faced with numerous problems: henchmen who know nothing but crime, the police who are convinced he is hatching a master plan, and Oscar, who has just got his daughter pregnant.

check it

Directors: Landis John

Actors: Riegert Peter,Palminteri Chazz,Travolta Joey,Paul Greco,Stallone Sylvester,Foronjy Richard,Ameche Don,Romanus Richard,Bracken Eddie,Munafo Tony,Lesser Robert,LaFleur Art,Smith Kurtwood,Comedy,Crime,

Is it ok to have cats and a parrot?!?
I am interested in your views on this please…

Me and my boyfriend own two indoor domestic cats, One is a male called Oscar and the other is female called Nismo - they are both 2 and half years old, very lazy and spend most of their time sleeping in the bedroom! We live in quite a big 2 bed house so the run around is ample.

We were recently deciding whether or not we should get an African Grey Parrot! We have both wanted one for years!!! The parrot would not be in contact with the cats often (or even at all) however on the basis that the cats are not bothered by our feathered friend (or are scared of it and don

Dark Reel

Dark Reel
Dark Reel (2008)

IMDB rating: 5.20

Plot: Murder, mystery and mayhem as B movie fan, Adam Waltz, wins Walk on Role in a film Featuring Scream Queen, Cassie Blue (Tiffany Shepis). Thinking his luck had changed for the better he steps into chaos with a killer loose and no one on the production safe. Adams role gets bigger with the murder of an actress, studio chief’s (Henriksen) low-budget thriller becomes big with the new publicity… Everyone is a suspect. Who is the killer? Why are they doing this? and who is next?

Dark Reel

Directors: Eisenstadt Josh

Actors: Furlong Edward,Henriksen Lance,Todd Tony,Baker Rick,Ryder Kevin,Walter Tracey,Parise Jeffrey Vincent,Xuereb Emmanuel,Grace Jake,Bushell Matt,Horror,Thriller,

Should I be an author when I grow up?
I’m a good writer. Ever since I’ve been in the school, I’ve been getting good marks on my essays. I usally get 5’s or 6’s out of a possible 6. I’ve already decided that I’m going to be a physician or a scientist of some sort, but I need a Plan B in case that doesn’t work out. Could writing be my niche? I’m going to write a paragraph, and from this paragraph, I want you guys to gauge my writing skills and see if writing books may be in my future. Also, do you think that I could write bestsellers like Stephanie Meyers or J.K. Rowling did?

I’m a HS freshman, BTW. Please be kind.

"Hmmpf!" Minerva grumbily mumbled to herself while she gazed at the undesired sight. Everything was ruined, and nothing was going according to her carefully deliberated plan that she worked out for the past month. This setback didn’t discourage her. She was as stubborn as a mule and as hard-headed as a bull. Hence, she didn’t listen to her friend of fifteen years when he told her to quit. "Cease and desist," Michael said. "Learn about your limitations; you know you can’t acquire everything you want in life. Some things are out of your league." But, Minerva thought that she could get anything, do anything, and be better than anything in this world. She could roar louder than the loudest lion in a pride could, if she wanted to. She could soar higher than the most adept eagle could. She could see better in the dark than any bat could. No, she would try again. She would make another attempt but with a different plan. She was the gardener, and each plan was a seed. This seed wasn’t good at all, and it only left the soil barren. But she had many seeds in stock, and she would plant another one. With enough water and sunlight, the new seed would grow into a strong tree, and eventually, it would bear luscious, ripe fruit. All that she had to do was wait.

I didn’t tell anyone what she saw or what her old plan was. This is supposed to be the hook that reels the reader in. Does it make you want to read more to know more about what’s going on with Minerva?

I really want to know if being an author could be a career for me. If so, then would it be a lucrative career to pursue? Do you guys think that I could be a bestselling author?
Josie, that wasn’t nice, and you don’t know how to give constructive criticism. It doesn’t matter if you thought that it was boring. You’re only one person in a world filled with 6.75 billion people. I thought that it was written well, considering that I used literary devices, such as metaphors.


There?s no way to know if anybody, no matter how talented, will be a bestseller. It involves a lot of factors, not only good writing. There are a lot of horrible bestselling books out there.
Keep writing, if you enjoy it. Some people will like what you write, others won?t, if you enjoy it, continue regardless of their opinions. I think what you wrote is good, especially for your age, but again, my opinion does not matter. Now, if you do not enjoy writing and are just thinking about making money, chose something else you like better. You can never be sure you?ll get rich, but at least doing what you like you won?t feel miserable.

Priscilla F | Jan 08, 2010


Yeah, because it’s that easy. You just say, hey, being an author will be my back up plan when I fail at being a physician or a scientist. Sounds like a cake walk. And, heck, maybe I can be a best seller if I eat a thesaurus.

*Sarcasm*
Kimber Primrose loves Bellamy | Jan 08, 2010


You should be an author if you love to write. That bestselling author thing comes later. BTW, I wouldn’t want to be Stephanie Meyer even if she was richer than J.K. Rowling.
Lover All Alone | Jan 08, 2010


Bestselling authors have bestselling books. Meaning, something about their, theme, plot, and writing style interest people and make them keep reading.

Basically, i don’t know how to say thing kindly. You wanted this work to be critiqued; therefore, it was quite boring. Boring that i didn’t even pay enough attention that i couldn’t write a quick summary on that paragraph. But, you are only a freshman in high school..so around 14-ish. Yes, you might have potential.

J.K. Rowling and Stephenie Meyer are very well known and have best selling books, but if you remembered, they only became bestselling authors out of the blue. They both didn’t plan on it. Sure, they enjoyed writing stories when they were young, and they both could write, and loved to read, but J.K. Rowling was poor and randomally thought up the Harry Potter story one day out of the blue and wrote it on a napkin in a cafe. Stephenie Meyer woke up from a random dream and wrote it down. Luck.
Josie | Jan 08, 2010


When it comes to writing, my motto is, don’t quit your day job, chickadee. Your writing is certainly good, but in today’s competitive market, it’s hard to get published by a big press, and even if you do get picked up by a non-advance-paying press, it won’t pay your bills. It definitely shouldn’t be a plan B to being a physician because it’s even harder to achieve: you’ll get into medical school with diligence and hard work, but that may not be enough to earn you a spot on the literary A-list.

I think you should still pursue writing and getting published, but don’t depend on that for your income. If you really need a plan B, look into dentistry or engineering, both good fallbacks if you can’t make it into medical or science.

And if you put your mind to it, you could write something as good as Rowling’s work (don’t even talk to me about Meyer)–it’s uncertain whether it will be a bestseller, though, as a lot of that depends on luck.

Before I go, here’s a little tip, you can take it or leave it or whatever: I think you may be overthinking the punctuation aspect of your writing. You used a few commas that could be omitted to make the writing flow better, and I’ve never heard anyone use a semicolon in dialogue.

Keep writing and good luck!
Mindy | Jan 08, 2010


People who say things like "please be kind" on here make me want to be especially nasty with them. A writer needs a thick skin, and the sooner you develop one, the better for everybody.

I would swap over your plan A and plan B. Among people who write fiction for money, very few earn enough for it to be their sole source of income.

I don’t know if your story would be in a genre that I read, but supposing it was, and supposing I picked it up off a shelf in a bookshop and read what you’ve written here as the first page, I would put the book down and look for another one. (Actually, I’m being generous here, because a book that was written like this wouldn’t be in the shop to start with.)

You give me no idea what Minerva is trying to do and (more important) no idea why I should care whether she lives or dies. I don’t even know if she’s human. If I was Michael, I would’ve given up on her a long time ago, as she sounds like a conceited [something that Y!A's naughty word filter doesn't like].

You have at least thought about why you’re writing like this, which is more than a lot of people round here seem to do, but it doesn’t work. The reader needs to be able to see the scene, and vague generalities like "undesired sight" make it sound as though the author hasn’t thought about what the scene looks like. If you’re deliberately withholding information in the hope that the reader will keep reading to get some answers… that’s not going to work either. Not everybody agrees with me on this, but I *detest* it when I notice the author doesn’t tell me something that the character sees or thinks while that character is on the page, simply to maintain tension and keep me reading. It’s like a bad magic act, where I can see the false back of the cabinet bulging because the assistant is leaning against it.

Final point - lose the cliches (stubborn as a mule, hard-headed as a bull…).
Steve | Jan 08, 2010


yes, just be sure you get a job good enough to support such a habit
chorle | Jan 09, 2010

Eagle vs Shark

Eagle vs Shark
Eagle vs Shark (2007)

IMDB rating: 7.10

Plot: Eagle vs Shark is the tale of two socially awkward misfits and the strange ways they try to find love; through revenge on high-school bullies, burgers, and video games.

Directors: Cohen Taika

Actors: Abdul Ban,Arahanga Julian,Brophy Riley,Buda Luke,Clement Jemaine,Cohen Taika,Cortesi Aaron,Davis Tammy,Fane David,Gardiner Adam,Gonzales-Macuer Cori,Hall Craig,Holloway Cohen,King Mike,Samia Tyrell,Comedy,

what song plays in the bedroom scene in the movie Eagle vs. Shark?
Jemaine Clement puts a tape in and plays a funky lame song during the bedroom scene. does anybody have any info of the songs name, who it is by, or if it was just something done for the movie?
thank you


"Sea World" by The Phoenix Foundation

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=T4rnaXN6L BY

I listen to it almost every day =]

Adele | Apr 19, 2009


try imdb.com they have soundtrack info so you can see if they ring a bell
pharohwrite | Apr 17, 2009

February 7, 2010

Along Came a Spider

Along Came a Spider
Along Came a Spider (2001)

IMDB rating: 6.10

Plot: A teacher at a school for children of politicians kidnaps a senator’s daughter after 2 years. He is revealed to be a criminal wearing a mask of the teacher and contacts a criminal psychologist to play cat and mouse. Cross believes he is being involved to ensure the kidnapper will attain fame. Confirmed by copycat of the Lindenburgh kidnapping and books about the case found in his hideout. However it is a deception using an unsuspecting accomplice and hides another plot the profiler is blind to.

Along Came a Spider

Directors: Tamahori Lee

Actors: Freeman Morgan,Wincott Michael,Baker Dylan,Yelchin Anton,Sanders Jay O.,Burke Billy,Moriarty Michael,Heindl Scott,Shyer Christopher,Crime,Mystery,Thriller,

I saved a spider from being eaten in my dream, what does this mean?
It was a tarantula and as it was walking across grass a furry animal tried to eat it. the spider hid in the tall grass and went very still. i came along and shooed the animal away, then i picked up the spider and set it on a leaf.

does this mean anything? ive never had a dream about a spider before.


Normally spider symbolizes fear. However, in your case, this may not be about fear that you have. On the contrary, it may be about things that you can’t control, things you may have anxiety about.

Projecting saving this spider from being eaten from an animal may reflect the feeling of helpless and out of control. In translation, this spider is not there to attack you, but to show you that it is there to be saved. That is the reflection of being helpless. In other words, you may be having some anxiety about being helpless in some aspect of your life and you vent it out in dream.

YourDreamDoc | Oct 23, 2009


Spiders

To see a spider in your dream, indicates that you are feeling like an outsider in some situation. Or that you may want to keep your distance and stay away from an alluring and tempting situation. The spider is also symbolic of feminine power. Alternatively, a spider may refer to a powerful force protecting you against your self-destructive behavior. If you kill a spider, it symbolizes misfortune and general bad luck.

To see a spider spinning a web in your dream, signifies that you will be rewarded for your hard work. You will soon find yourself promoted in your job or recognized for your achievement in a difficult task. Spiders are a symbol of creativity due to the intricate webs they spin. On a negative note, spiders may indicate a feeling of being entangled or trapped in a sticky or clingy relationship. It represents some ensnaring and controlling force. You may feel that someone or some situation is sucking the life right out of you. Alternatively, if a spider is spinning a web in your dream, then it could be a metaphor for the world wide web and global communication.

To see a spider climbing up a wall in your dream, denotes that your desires will be soon be realized.

To dream that you are bitten by a spider, represents a conflict with your mother or some dominant female figure in your life. The dream may be a metaphor for a devouring mother or the feminine power to possess and entrap. Perhaps you are feeling trapped by some relationship.
Shelly | Oct 23, 2009


It means that you are a very nice person who does not judge badly against others because they are different(like being a tarantula).
samuria jack | Oct 23, 2009

February 5, 2010

The Little Foxes

The Little Foxes
The Little Foxes (1941)

IMDB rating: 8.10

Plot: This film adaptation of the ‘Lillian Hellman’ (qv) play depicts a post-Civil War southern community where nothing is more important than money and power to Regina Giddens (’Bette Davis’ (qv)). In order to join her equally ruthless brothers in a scheme that is sure to gain her wealth and power, she uses her young, naive daughter to fetch her estranged, ailing husband who is living elsewhere. When she cannot convince her husband to give her the money, she sets forward a cunning plan which escalates.

Directors: Wyler William

Actors: Marshall Herbert,Carlson Richard,Duryea Dan,Dingle Charles,Reid Carl Benton,Marriott John,Hicks Russell,Littlefield Lucien,Thomas Henry ‘Hot Shot’,Drama,Romance,

A shounen manga with (click for the details… >_>)?
A shounen manga with a main character that’s a little warped or has something messed up about them…an example would be Ichigo’s hollow self and Naruto’s 9 tailed fox…So basically…like a dark side…also…nothing obvious….like Naruto, Bleach, D.Grayman, or any other thing that everybody has heard of….


i’m not sure if everybody has heard of this, but persona: trinity soul. in the show, some people are able to use things called persona, which is apart of their soul.
Grayfox2713 | Feb 02, 2010

Miss Conception

Miss Conception
Miss Conception (2008)

IMDB rating: 4.90

Plot: Georgina is an ambitious young London professional who learns she has only one month left in which to conceive a child. After exhausting all possibilities with her baby-phobic boyfriend, Georgina turns to her wildly optimistic friend Clem, with whom she sets out to identify and “land” the perfect father for her child.

here i download Miss Conception

Directors: Styles Eric

Actors: Ellis Tom,Mellor Will,Seale Orlando,Parkin Richard,Doherty Laurence,Hughes Nathan,Kane Robert,Kranz Charlie,Le Prevost Nicholas,MacLiam Edward,McKenna Anthony,Sheahan Cathal,Sheffield Jeremy,Comedy,

Did I test too soon? What are the chances of me being pregnant? Please help!!!?
I had unprotected sex on the 26th and 27th Dec, but he pulled out before he came, so it’s a case of pre-cum which I am well aware can get me pregnant.

My last period started Dec 8th and I was expecting my next period around Jan 8th. It never came, but it wouldn’t be majorly unusual for me to be a little late or even to miss a month. Around Jan 4th I started getting cramps, which I thought were because I was due my period. These lasted for about 2/3 days. After that my nipples started to get sore, but only for like a day, which again I put down to my period. I noticed that yesterday and today I’ve needed to go to the toilet a lot more than I normally do, and just today I had some blood. The first time it was light pink and only when I wiped, but then later it was red and like it was mixed with mucus (sorry if tmi). Could this be implantation bleeding? It would be 12 days since conception if I had of ovulated on the 1st - 5 days after having sex.
I feel like a lot of these symptoms could be from pregnancy or just from pms. Part of me is saying ‘no, you’re just freaking yourself out and making up these things’ and then part of me is saying well what if..

I did a hpt yesterday and it was negative. I know they say to wait 19 days afer sex, and this would have been only 17. Was this definitely too early?
I’m gonna wait till the 20th to do another one. If I wait til then it should show if I am pregnant.


You may be freaking youself out but you definatly could be pregnant, I would wait and take the test but from what you said your periods are abnormal, so go to Dr if next one says negative and your still worried.

Jessica H | Jan 13, 2010


If that was implantation bleeding, you should get a positive a couple of weeks after it started.
Cindy D | Jan 13, 2010


Doesn’t have to be that your pregnant. most Probably not. just to make sure take another test to see if it comes out negative again.
sh14ly | Jan 13, 2010

February 4, 2010

Four Horsemen, The

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Four Horsemen, The
Four Horsemen, The (2006)

IMDB rating: 7.00

Plot: This short film were presented at the Belfast film festival. THE FOUR HORSEMEN is a futuristic allegory adapted from the Book of Revelations which illustrates the struggle of ‘Life’ when pitted against ‘War’, ‘Famine’, ‘Death’ and ‘Pestilence’. The novel is directed by Robert Kelly, lasts 16 minutes, and was produced in Ireland, 2006.

Directors: Kelly Rob

Actors: Cannon Feidlim,ShortFantasy,

Why in the Revelation book the four horsemen are opposite as colour : white and black, red and green?
In the original Ancient Greek the fourth is green.


Anthropologists have found that not all cultural groups recognize the difference between all the colors on the wheel. Some cultures, use one name for blue and green. They will point to the sky and tell you the name of the color, then to the grass and tell you the same color name.

The colors everyone has a distinct name for are red, yellow and black. There are (or were) people who would give one color name to all shades of black, green, blue and purple, but NO groups that combined red and yellow in one color name.

Neuroscientists have found that color categories are in our brain. We have these things like pistons that fire when we see some colors. The pistons are grouped the same way primitive people group colors.

Color blind people who cannot distinguish blue from green or purple from red do distinguish between red and green (which is why our traffic lights are those colors) and black and white.

The short answer would be that your horsemen are the high contrast colors that all people recognize. These are the obviously distinct and contrasting colors that the human brain always distinguishes.

I’m not sure what that MEANS symbolically. It has strong visual impact, even in imagination. That color combination is used in the national flags, maybe especially in areas of glaring sun (less visibility) while red and blue are more popular in northern places. Think about it.

mama outlaw | Jan 16, 2010


It’s just prettier that way. Actually, colors have a lot to do with symbolism as well. I would guess it has some thing to do with that.
punch | Jan 16, 2010


GOD LIKES COLORS…PURPLE IS HIS FAVORITE
Fireball | Jan 16, 2010


"Green," (chlo?ros) is pale in Koine Greek as well as green. And the colors are symbolic and the symbolism is explained in each verse to which you refer.

The preference of

Lost Empire, The

Lost Empire, The
Lost Empire, The (2001)

IMDB rating: 4.30

Plot: American Businessman and China Scholar, Nick Orton is enlisted by the Buddhist goddess of mercy to save his world from de-evolving to the time of the Demon Master Shu and the 5 Traditional Masters who wish for no progress to ever happen. Nick is given help in the form of The Handsome Monkey king, Pigsy and Friar Sand who must do battle with dragons, demons and a heavenly legal system to assure that Earth remains as it should be.

Online Movies World

Directors: MacDonald Peter

Actors: Gibson Thomas,Wong Russell,Young Ric,Bedi Kabir,Marsan Eddie,Kim Randall Duk,O Henry,Beesley Terence,Bernstein Simon,Cheng Cecil,Chinn Anthony,Faulkner James,Kong Turbo,Kwouk Burt,Adventure,Fantasy,

How do you cope with your last grand parent dying, when you've only known your mothers side of your family?
My grandpa died when I was 20. I talked to him for two hours on the phone the day he died. He was my best friend, and my youngest aunt said his last words were "get Jason he can help". I’ve never met my father, and I hear he is a piece of work. I called my grandmother on that side of the family and she told me she is an 80 year old blind woman and wanted to be left alone.

I do love my grandmother on my mom’s side, and my real mom died 5 years ago. I was adopted by my oldest aunt. So I know a lot about loss. I’m just wondering how people feel about losing most of their family before they are even 32? I turn 32 next week.

I think of historical figures like George Washington who was given an estate at the young age of 17 because both his father and uncle died in their 40’s. I’m sure he was a strong person that was able to lead not only his family, but troops, and eventually go against the greatest empire.

What are your thoughts on loss? I think the most inspirational book I read on this topic was ‘Why Bad Things Happen to Good People’ by Harold S. Kushner. But sometimes I feel little solace anyway. I wrote my grandma a letter last week that she read. My meth addicted uncle won’t let me visit her because he calls the cops since I turned him in for abusing her. And she supported him because that is her way when the department of aging came to check on her.

How do you deal with loss?


Oh Honey, I am so sorry you are having to deal with this. I have lost a lot of people.All of my relatives on my paternal side are dead. One of these, my grandmother, was one of the people I did and always will love most in the world. She suffered a great deal with liver cancer. I worked at a fast food place and lived in another state. I went every weekend to visit her at the nursing home. It was the most painful thing I have ever been through. None of my own problems ever hurt me the way her death did. I had a nervous breakdown when she died. I was at work when I got the call, and I fell down on the floor and could not get up. I just sobbed and sobbed. They called my husband to come and get me. I couldn’t recover for a long time, I lost my job. It was awful, the funeral, oh god, Ghost.
Her death was it. The most awful thing I ever endured. And Ghost I have endured a lot.

humpty dumpty | Feb 02, 2010


im so sorry to hear this, i have also lost both of my grandparents from my mothers side-the sane side, my remaining relatives are crack pots and psychos that i do not wish to associate with. I am 23 and am sad that my family is left to what it is. I deal with loss one day at a time i guess, i miss them all the time, i miss seeing my grandmother laugh and play with my daughter, i miss our sunday dinners, i miss listening to my grandfather go on and on about world events, but at some point i think we need to realize how lucky we were to have those times and that some never get to experience the love of a grandparent at all. i wish you the best in your healing.
Lindsey A | Feb 02, 2010


My dad died when I was 20 and at that time I only had one grandparent and my mother left. Now as of 2006 I am the oldest one in my family. It’s scary. My last grandmother’s death was hard because I had known her longer than anyone else in my family, she was 90 years old. My brother don’t talk to me much, he’s all for his wife’s family. I have found a new family on the internet and have met 6 of them in person. Two women and two men are now my heart brothers and sisters. They are closer to me than any of my extended family is because I talk to them every day.
Sweet Cupcake | Feb 02, 2010


You concentrate on your own life & forget about the things you have no power to change. If you don’t learn how to do this, it will eat you alive from the inside out. We don’t get to choose our families before we are born & they don’t get to choose us. A few try to manipulate us, as children, or indoctrinate us into their dysfunctional life styles, but in the end, we become adults & then WE decide how we want to live our lives.

I had to learn how to let go of the anger before I could heal. I will never forget how messed up my family members were & still are. The ones still living are dead to me. That’s the way I cope with a bunch of sickos that I happen to share a name with on one side & a bloodline on the other! I accept the fact that they did the best they could with what they had to work with from their generation & life experience. I’m certain most had it worse than I did & that brings me some solace.

You aren’t alone. You are not the first & you won’t be the last person who is born into a dysfunctional family. You need to forgive yourself if you can’t forgive them. Learn to accept the fact that THEY made poor choices & YOU don’t have to do the same thing in your own life.
Hugs, Dee W.

Added;
When bad things happen to good people, everyone is outraged & shocked.
When good things happen to BAD people, it’s similar because they aren’t used to having good things happen & they often don’t even notice when it happens to them! It’s tougher to get through to their injured & damaged souls. Consider yourself lucky that you are aware of some of the problems that they don’t seem to notice & learn to forgive their ignorance (the trick is to keep silent & not tell them) and someday they might MIGHT explain their childhoods to you! I guarantee they came from a worse place than you did & that doesn’t make them right or wrong. It makes them human. Damaged children become damaged adults until they learn to reparent themselves correctly.

I urge you to find a good therapy group or start reading this book by John Bradshaw "Homecoming: Reclaiming Your Inner Child". It teaches us where our brains were first short-circuited by parents & caregivers & how to rewire what we have learned through years of subtle & unintentional brainwashing!
Dee W. | Feb 02, 2010


If you are a Christian you know you will meet again, that helps.
Bob | Feb 02, 2010


Try thinking of people who have lost a lot more than you. Every time I feel down, I always try to think of those less fortunate. By the way, I too have lost everyone in my family. It is scary to not have anyone to fall back on for any kind of help, but it will make ya stronger.
picasso | Feb 02, 2010


Consider yourself lucky that you had him that long in your life!! I know you feel bad but remember the good times and try and follow his lead in life!! You sound like a sound person that can deal with lots of pain!! Go the further step and get your Grandmother out of that abusive situation by calling Adult Protective Services!! She must be very miserable living with a dope addict!! They understand that she fears her son and will not go against his wishes!! I’m sure he wants to keep her because she gives him money for dope!! Stand your ground!! What do you have to lose? You have a Grandmother to gain!! God Bless you and may he answer your prayers!!!
Kwe' | Feb 03, 2010

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